How can I stop masturbating and watching porn?

 


Porn is an addiction. It hacks our brain's wiring the same way drugs do.

We have been evolutionarily wired to want to reproduce, but our brain’s dopamine-based reward system in its millions of years of evolving in caves never learned to tell the difference between a real human and a video of a naked girl on a screen.
Porn gives you an orgasm without all the other chemicals and intimacy that are involved in sex with a real person. Resultantly, it’s “empty” and highly addictive.

Most people who watch porn are porn addicts who cannot go a week without having to take a peek. Further, because of the social stigma attached, most can never openly talk about it or seek help. (Many aren’t even aware that they’re addicts because they’ve never tried to quit it.)

Studies have shown that watching porn damages and shrinks your brain.

Researchers at the Max Planck Institute for Human Development in Berlin found that men who watch a lot of porn tend to have a smaller striatum, an area of the brain “linked to rewards and motivation”. The study also found that the connection between the striatum and the prefrontal cortex – the part of the brain associated with behavior and decision making – degraded with increased porn watching.

Note that porn for our 90-day abstinence not only includes videos of naked people, it also includes anything you look at erotically, even if it is pictures of your friend on your phone.

Likewise, masturbation does you no good. It saps you of energy and it leaves you feeling tired and exhausted. It’s not that masturbation will harm you (outside of robbing you of energy), it’s that there are tons of benefits that come with retaining your semen in you.

When you avoid masturbating, your body will reward you for not wasting your life energy by making you feel rejuvenated and energetic. You will have more strength in the gym, and you will have much more clarity of mind throughout your day. This process of conversion of sexual energy into strength, alertness, and motivation is called Sexual Transmutation.

(If you are interested in learning more about Sexual Transmutation, I encourage you to pick up a copy of "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill.)

If you need someone to talk to...

Cutting down porn and masturbation (especially if you're a male) is going to be really hard. Harder than you think.

It’s very easy to fall back to porn and masturbation, not just out of horniness, but also out of boredom.

They are both really tough to quit because your brain is hardwired to want them and because they are available easily, privately, and freely.

If you feel overwhelmed, I recommend that you check out something called "nofap" - it's an internet community centered around abstinence from porn and masturbation.

It has a lot of guys motivating and supporting each other through the tough times, especially when the urges are at their peak and your mind is really trying hard to convince you to break.

You get a limited exemption from our abstinence from social media to interact with the nofap community.









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