How can I prevent gossiping?



The reason behind this is simple: the purpose of this blog is to help you be intentional about your life. When you gossip about other people, you lose the narrative that your life is about you and what you do with it. When you gossip, your life becomes about them.

Think back to all the people who keep talking about other people, be it their "friends", coworkers, bosses, politicians, sportsmen, or celebrities. All of these people are not living their own life.

They're trying to live through other people.

• They signal their "principles" by making negative comments about people they know. They live their principles via other people. (If I was in their place, I would have ...)

• They celebrate other people’s achievements like they were their own. If their favorite cricket team or tennis player wins, they live as if it was their own victory, even though their contribution to that achievement was nothing.

• They satisfy their need for adventure and popularity by idolizing a famous person. They act like a living advertisement for someone else. But unlike ambitious people who take inspiration from other

winners and try to learn from them, these people are happy just being a cheerleader. (Elon Musk is the best. I am smarter and cooler than other people because I am obsessed with Elon Musk.
In other words - their lives are not about them.  

If I was to write a book on their life, they would not be the main character of that book. That book would be about the story and achievements of other people and they themselves would just be a side character.

Don't let this happen to yourself. Fight that urge to gossip. It only makes you weaker.

How about a compliment instead?

It can be anyone, you could tell someone in the gym that they're looking toned, a friend that you like their outfit, - a compliment a day to anyone. It costs you nothing, it makes people feel better, and people will start liking  you for your positive attitude. Your relationships will improve, and your network will get larger.



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